In every family or household there are themes for holivars that can piss off anyone. It would seem that little things that are not worth paying attention to develop into heated discussions and even scandals. We present a selection of the most absurd domestic disputes, familiar to almost every couple, neighbors and friends. In this article you will learn why we argue over trifles, and how you can maintain peace in your home.
Why do we quarrel over little things?
Psychological background: In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, accumulated fatigue and stress result in irritation for any reason. A minor reason becomes the last straw.
Habits and Standards: Each person has their own “correct” way to fold things, prepare food, or distribute responsibilities. And any step towards the “wrong” is perceived as a personal insult.
List of the most popular absurd arguments
- Temperature in the apartment: Some people prefer +18°C, others keep the thermostat at +24°C. In addition, “walruses” (those who love cool weather) and “suns” (those who fry under a blanket) do not find a compromise. Some complain of cold feet, others – of stuffiness and high humidity. The result often becomes an argument at the thermostat and a collective boycott: one goes to the balcony to smoke, the other goes into the cold bath.
- Correct direction of toilet paper: It would seem an absolutely innocent question: is the paper above the roll or below the roll? People defend their point of view with no less zeal than participants in political debates. Despite manufacturer regulation and official instructions, two camps dominate, ready to reposition the holder every time “the edge hangs wrong.”
- Toothpaste and Crushing Squeeze: There is a big and long debate about where exactly the paste should be squeezed out: at the base, in the center or at the end of the tube? And why do some people twist the tube to the end, while others leave the “fungus” for subsequent toothbrushings? Everyone acts in their own way, causing damage to the nervous system of their half.
- TV remote control and channel queue: A typical situation: one wants to watch a sports program, the second wants to watch a cooking show, and the third wants to watch a TV series. The remote control becomes a symbol of power, and changing channels becomes a tactical operation. The last person to grab the remote control is the king of entertainment... at least until the next commercial.
- Refrigerator: order versus creativity: Everything in the refrigerator is important: where is the ketchup (in the door or on the shelf), where to put the leftovers from yesterday's dinner, and why is oatmeal stored in a glass jar and not in a plastic container? Everyone has their own method of “laying out” products, and an attempt to reassign “their” place causes a storm of indignation.
- Laying down bed linen: Familiar shouts: “Put the sheet on inside out, the sides are mixed up!” or “Why is the duvet cover without corners, does it always move?” The debate is about how to properly make a bed, whether it should be reliably made every morning, and whether it is necessary to iron every fold.
- Place for shoes and hallway rules: A confrontation between fighters of the “where to leave wet shoes” and “shoes should be in a strictly designated closet” style. As a result, two mountains form on the floor near the door - “my” and “your” shoes, reminiscent of a battlefield where once a week they post notices “Take your shoes away or take them to the landing.”
How to survive domestic conflicts?
- Listen to each other: The true cause of discord is far from being temperature or paper, but a feeling of misunderstanding.
- Look for compromises: you can agree on general thermostat settings according to a schedule or switch roles: today I choose the channel, tomorrow you.
- Set the “rules of the game”: agree on specific rules for storing food and squeezing out paste. Formalizing the process will remove the emotional component.
- Laugh at yourself: Laughter reduces tension. Turn the argument into a joke, and then find the optimal solution.
- Share responsibility: If you live together, you can organize a joint cleaning schedule and “fair living rules.”
Conclusion
Domestic disputes are an integral part of any common story. Yes, they sometimes seem absurd and meaningless, but it is in them that our habits, values and characters are manifested. The main thing - don’t get hung up on trifles and remember that behind any problem there is a person who also wants comfort and understanding. The ability to agree on even the most insignificant things creates the foundation for true harmony in the home.